Surrogacy and IVF

I applaud the women who give up their bodies to help other couples or singles have families of their own but at the same time I'm developing opinions. Surrogates may find my opinion harsh and perhaps unjustified, but this is my opinion. 

* Surrogates go through lengthy physicals and psychological exams to become an incubator for infertile couples or individuals wishing to start a family. Also surrogates are subjected to background, criminal and credit checks.

* surrogates and egg donors are compensated financially for their sacrifice. But considering the journey starts months before any transfer of the fertilized egg and the "job" is 24/7 the compensation is not that much. Honestly I don't know how much surrogates are paid and it's rude to ask. But in the case of multiples the surrogate's life is put on hold often spending time confined to bed either in a hospital or at home. Time away from their own children often occurs.

* complications can sometimes occur putting the surrogates life at risk.

* As a surrogate your able to pick and choose which couples are appealing. The couples you want to work with and these couples want to work with you. Once a match occurs a business contract is drawn up , an agreement between the IP and SM. Once the child or children is born, the stipulations in the contract is honored. The agreement is fulfilled. The parents are not required to continue an ongoing relationship with the surrogate.  Most blogs I've read about surrogacy is 75% of the parents have maintained a semi-transparent relationship with the surrogate after birth by providing the surrogate with photos and an occasional update. The parents DO NOT have to do this. Sometimes the parents choose to have no further contact with the surrogate after the birth, treating the surrogate as just an incubator and nothing more.

* The child/children you carry as a surrogate is not related to you genetically, thus "not your child" but at the same time after feeling the child move within your womb some attachment can occur and post partum depression.

Before signing the Surrogacy Contract please review the terms of the agreement clearly and if it goes against what you feel is right, DO NOT SIGN IT. Some religion discourages abortion and in some instances selective reductions have occured after IVF. Once you sign the contract and agree to the terms you are legally responsible to follow through .

Before starting surrogacy talk with a reputable agency and lawyer. Make sure the contract is what you are agree to and the terms clearly outlined. That the impending parents terms are clearly noted. Once this contract is signed it becomes a legally binding agreement.

Protect yourself!!!