Fundraising for Adoption

I noticed when a parent commits to a child on a certain website or shows an interest in a particular child ( most likely photolisted illegally) other people associated with the website start a fundraising frenzy. Offering to help raise money etc. (It kind of reminds me of fishermen dumping chum in the ocean to attrack sharks.) Once the adoption is finalized and your home the others  who supported your adoption online disappears, just like sharks will when the chum disappears. And at other times when someone decides to tell the truth  about their experience the feeding frenzy escalates, trying to discredit others and destroy relationships. Even bullying others through email or posting comments anonymously just because someone told the truth. I decided to start this blog to point out what I see as an outsider to the adoption world and not to pick on individual families because most of you mean well.
Although it's your personal choice to adopt only about 20% of you all provide the majority of the adoption cost. Most depend on fundraisers to help with adoption fees but contribute some of their own money. And there's a few that depend on everyone else's money from the get go because they don't have the funds to start the initial paperwork. I ask myself should their home study even been approved? Should they even be adopting?

I was horrified when I read one blog, the PAP commited to a child and had fundraisers to pay for home study, paperwork, passports and initial travel expenses. Once the family had the travel dates and spent time  bonding with the child, they returned home to wait for their court date. During this time they discovered they did not have enough money to complete the adoption. The family contacted the agency and released the child, thus abandoning the child.  And I'm heart broken over the two kids still sitting in the orphanage almost 2 months after the adoption was finalized because she doesn't have the money to pay the agency. If the adopting families were more prepared this would not have happened. It's cruel and irresponsible to go into an adoption unprepared.