As a young child I was taught to always tell the truth . And always felt being honest was a good thing. Sometimes I would do something wrong and would get caught but never lied about it because I felt the punishment might be worse for lying. As an adult working in healthcare being dishonest could cause a patient to die if I didn't report something because it would cause extra work for me. I knew the people who counted on me to be honest . Was lying worth risking their lives? No it wasn't. Did I skip breaks to report their condition and take their vital signs? Yes I did because they mattered. Why don't orphans matter? Why don't those adopting deserve the truth?
Why is the international adoption world so secretive, corrupt and dishonest? Why are some adopting parents treated like a pariah because they told the truth? My favorite blogger was honest about her experience and her adoption community shunned her for it. She was told to change her blog and omit things but she stood her ground. She was attacked by those spouting bible verses on their own blogs for telling the truth. Does honesty not have a place in the adoption community? She was asked to change that she paid a fee to a facilitator . She was told to remove her child's country from the blog. She left things as is.
A facilitator fee is not an official adoption fee in her child' s country, the orphanage does not benefit from the money paid to a facilitator nor does anyone but the facilitator. Hidden money someone collects and if your asked to hide it then something is wrong.
If you're consistently asked to hide things during the adoption most likely you're being lied to about the official costs. If something doesn't feel right it most likely isn't right.
I've read several of your blogs and seen how some of you were disappointed because some medical issues were purposely left out of your official referral. That some of you felt lied to once you got to talk to talk the Dr at the orphanage. And you wonder why these medical diagnosis was not included on the child's sponsor page or at the official referral.
On the child's (RR) sponsor page if it says... It appears the child can_________, it looks like this diagnosis________ keep in mind these aren't official diagnosis. This information might of been provided by families visiting another child. If RR had permission to advocate for this child it would say the child has _____________. And by the way most EE country's do not allow photolisting children on 3rd party sites. I seen a newly listed child today with just a picture and a name, claiming more information later. Most likely hoping a family who's traveling now might see the child and provide the information. Most likely RR does not have permission to advocate for this child. And most likely the child's country does not allow photolisting on a 3rd party site which is what RR is.
I do feel RR is trying to help the forgotten but they should be more transparent themselves to truly help the kids.
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