Is anyone listening out there?

Do I have readers out there? Maybe, according to the stats I do. I didn't intentionally start following adoption blogs but I happened to run across one when I was reading a Trisomy 18 blog. The AP had posted a comment on a blog I followed at the time.  Since then I have read 50+ blogs even going to an adoption site to find more. I heard so many good and bad things about international Adoption. Mostly about the agencies or facilitators not being 100% honest in regards to the children's health . Or the amount being paid to a facilitator, a king's ransom in itself. I read one story during the 10 day wait a couple Adopting mothers wanted to stay together in one apartment instead of two since their husbands have already left . To them it was a good ideal because they wouldn't be alone and they could split the rent thus saving money. Their facilitator said they couldn't do that. It makes me want to think the facilitator is getting part of the rent collected. 

Or PAP taking public transportation or walking instead of having their facilitator call a driver and by doing this they paid just pocket change compared to the cost of a cab which could be quite expensive. Or PAP wanting to take a plane to the region they are adopting from vs a train, a particular Facilitator got hostile towards the PAP. Why does the facilitator try to control the PAP, even threatening Them? And I seen where a PAP took their own translator with them to the orphanage instead of contacting their facilitator to arrange one, again the PAP was threatened. I always thought the point of a SN adoption is trying to help the kids . And thought having a facilitator was to help the Adoption move smoothly. It also seems strange the facilitator ask the PAP for the money to pay the officials before the PAP is brought in and no receipts issued to verify how much it cost! Is the adoptive parent being overcharged purposely? Is the facilitator pocketing the money??

Don't get me wrong I'm not saying all facilitators are corrupt and most AP have pleasant experiences with theirs often requesting the same facilitator again. But there seems to be too much secrecy when the facilitator pays the fees.